intelligentshipper:

intelligentshipper:

Negativity has consumed every part of the fandom. It’s not just Destiel. Stan twitter/tumblr/whatever will be pissy no matter what they’re given. 

Last year? Sure Sam has emotional stuff but he needs plot! Give him story presence! This year? Sam being a leader is trash! Let him talk about his feelings history with Dean!

Last year? And the last few years? Dean’s overstressed! He’s overworked! Sam’s the one that gets all the emotional stuff! Let Dean breathe! This year? How dare Dabb let Sam take over! You’re taking Dean’s place in the group! Nevermind that Dean isn’t being painted incompetent and helped lead Sam back into confidence!

And whenever they try to manage both in seasons? Hoo boy. So and so doesn’t deserve it or this or that and the character stanning only intensifies.

Last year – do you get where I’m going with this?

This fandom is fucking toxic if you’re gauging anything off of how stan twitter is feeling. Characters, relationships, anything. There are always people dying to be pissed off about something and even when they’re finally happy about something another group of people dying to be pissed off about something are there waiting to take over, and generally they overlap, or double back on what they happened to want before and spit on it when they’re given it.

Destiel fandom is only different in that not only are we getting pissy moods about a relationship we’re also managing two character viewpoints and reasons to be pissy from a character level in stan fandom.

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I’m going to add to this by saying: How many people feeling this are people who binge watched at least a portion of the show? Any portion. Years ago even. Maybe when it uploaded to Netflix? Season 7? When did you join live? And most importantly, when did you join stan twitter fandom, and when did you start feeling bitter about everything? Were you this bitter all the time before you joined standom? Probably not. As in the above cut post, it’s a mass hysteria effect that borders on mass hallucination at times, imagining global sleights from people you trained yourself into thinking had a similar scope to you, but maligning what was once material and content you would have enjoyed. 

Consider it deeply before deciding that just because whatever wing you’re in (and this must be a respectively small wing, because I have dozens if not hundreds of happy friends at current in my wing and have only run into a few complaints, likely from another branch of Destiel fandom, of which there are many among dozens of thousands of fans) stands for the voice of everybody and, if you’re seeing too much negativity about things you used to enjoy that are making it less enjoyable, I might suggest reviewing your options and tailoring your timeline.

Standom turns fanning into a competitive sport about who can be the most pissed off, whether people are realize that’s the hunger games they’ve been thrown into or not. The first step is to honestly step away from standom and rejoin fandom. It can be difficult to discern which is which, since we casually joke “I stan,” but go listen to Eminem’s “Stan” which created the name, and review if you’re on a parallel slide, or if the lane around you is to start dragging you down the course, off the bridge and into the wank waters.

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1. re: echo chambers: that’s why it’s healthy to be around people that have differing opinions. you end up seeing different viewpoints and seeing things from a different angle. like, there were people i now consider friends that didn’t immediately coo over jack and it helped put things in perspective for me instead of a constant motherly reaction to a perceived negative tweet about him

2. ditto the thing about stan sm. if y’all listen to that minority, it sounds like the show is on the verge of cancelling when it’s not. and it can even hurt because characters and actors and even members of tptb you hold dear are raged at because THAT particular stan corner can’t stand them for some reason.

3. to answer your added question (which was supposed to be mentally reflective i’m sure but lmaoooo), i started watching in s9. watched on the app and then live a few episodes before the finale.

hellatus between s9-s10 i was being a little bitter because i was listening to some assholes in destiel tumblr fandom that cas deserves better than dean. it lasted a very short while because then s10 happened and i was back to crying about wanting my babes together.

i also kind of isolated myself from fandom from 2014-2017, so that helped de-bitter me. was just lurking around, live tweeting when i could. reading fics. reblogging gifs and destiel-positive it’s-going-somewhere posts. interacting with others when i felt up to interacting with strangers. so i know about shit that went down.

now i have a much better fandom experience because @intelligentshipper pretty much dragged me out of the shadows and ever since then i realized that yeah, being more active means you see more of the shitty stan side, but it helps oddly enough? because you can mute those people or block them (and yeah i know it won’t solve every problem in fandom but it helps). you can surround yourself like i did with people that just enjoy the show and don’t rage unless it’s something that deserves it (like the gross sexualizing of lucifer taking sister jo’s grace, for example BLECH).

it’s freaking needed to protect your mental health, for one, and for another i don’t remember enjoying my overall experience with the show and the fandom as much as i do now. my default to most hate-rage now is laughter. like “LMAO WHERE ARE THEY EVEN GETTING THAT FROM”.

in conclusion to this long ass essay: ignore extreme stans by taking some of the steps i described. it might help you like it did me.